College dating statistics
The dynamics, and numbers, shift when we expand the conversation from different-sex to same-sex dating.Obviously the lesbian dating market is unaffected by how many men there are, just as the dating market for gay men is unaffected by how many women there are.There’s a scene in “The Fires of Autumn,” Irene Nemirovsky’s novel set in 1920s France, in which a young war widow named Therese thinks she is being courted for marriage by her childhood friend Bernard — only to discover that he wants nothing more than a fling. I say “naively” because it’s not the first time some newfangled technology has been mistakenly blamed for young people having more sex. But the moralizers of Nemirovsky’s era fooled themselves into believing that the automobile was to blame for loosening sexual mores.He, in turn, is baffled by her unwillingness to carry on a casual affair. “A house of prostitution on wheels” was how one judge described it at the time.Unsurprisingly, men tend to be less — I’ll say it — promiscuous when women are more scarce.
But for the straight, college-educated woman who is eager to get married and start a family, the question becomes how best to deal with a dating market in which men have too much leverage.
Dating and marrying across socioeconomic lines — “mixed-collar” marriages, if you will — is one possible remedy.
I’d also urge marriage-minded women not to put off getting serious about dating because the math will only get worse over time.
Call it the musical chairs problem: Nearly everybody finds a chair in the first round.
By the last round, however, there’s a 50 percent chance of not getting one.